By Kenia Morales
Mark Twain said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great." And you know what? He was right! I am sure you know at least one person in your life that always has something negative to say. Their main objective is to make you feel bad in one way or another. You know those people that say just about anything knowing that it will hurt you or make you feel uncomfortable.
If you have friends like that then you should seriously spend less amount of time with them. Why? People like that can tear you apart little by little; it is not true that words do not hurt. In fact, they can hurt more than actual physical violence. Think about it, the more you hear someone put you down the more you will start to believe what they say. Therefore, it will tear your self esteem slowly but surely.
If it’s not easy to stay away from the toxic person in your life because they are part of your family etc. try to maintain some distance. Always keep in mind that the reason why this person targets you is because they have low self esteem and needs to put down others, in order to feel better. It’s like the quote above says, someone who is sure of himself and confident in his abilities would not waste time putting others down.
Also, do not just be a doormat for bullies. If they hurt you in a calm and serious manner express your feelings and tell them exactly what type of behavior you expect from them. Show sensibility for their emotions as well and you will see them respect you more for being assertive (expressing your emotions on a healthy manner). If you do this you will probably earn their respect and maintain the relationship alive.
Remember to maintain positive and uplifting individuals close to you. Life is already too hard therefore; it will be likely that sometimes you will feel out of tune. Exactly when the company of a positive soul will come in handy!
About the Author: Kenia Morales is the publisher of online magazine http://kpatra.com "For Every Aspect of Today's Woman. Visit her site to find a variety of women related issues and topics" click here http://kpatra.com/keniascolumn.htm to read more inspirational articles written by her.
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